Stalking 3rd is the charge Connecticut uses when someone repeatedly shows up, follows, or reaches out in ways that would make a reasonable person feel unsafe or seriously on edge. Think in-person appearances near home or work, routine “drive-bys,” or persistent contact that won’t stop. It’s the “pattern” that turns ordinary encounters into a criminal case.
What the State Must ProveUnder § 53a-181e, the State has to show a course of conduct aimed at a particular person—repeated following, monitoring, approaching, or communicating—and that you knew or should have known those actions would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety (or that of a family/household member) or to suffer substantial emotional distress.
Charge level: Class B misdemeanor.
Possible ConsequencesOver several weeks, someone appears outside an ex’s office at lunch, follows to the parking garage, and attempts contact after being told to stop. That consistent pattern supports Stalking 3rd.
2) Repeated Nightly Drive-Bys (Chargeable)A neighbor parks across from a home most evenings, idles for 20 minutes, and takes photos. The repetition and proximity would reasonably cause fear or major distress.
3) Commute Tailing (Chargeable)Catching the same train car three mornings in a row and trailing the person from the station to their building after a dispute—especially after a “please stop”—can satisfy the “course of conduct” element.
4) One Tense Run-In, Then Nothing (Not Chargeable)Two people argue in a store, then happen to pass each other once more the next day. No follow-up, no messages, no new encounters. Without repetition, Stalking 3rd doesn’t fit.
Related Offenses (Similar Crimes With Statutes)If the parties are spouses, dating partners, co-parents, or household members, the case usually goes to the DV docket. Expect a protective order at arraignment and a focus on in-person safety—neutral exchange locations, staggered pick-ups, and clear distance rules.
Family Violence Education Program (FVEP). In DV cases, courts often look to FVEP. With court approval and successful completion of the class track (and strict compliance with any order), the case is typically closed and erased from public view. We support the application with counseling documentation, proof you stopped contact, and a proximity plan (routes, exchange sites) that addresses safety.
AR / Diversion (Non-DV or Where FVEP Isn’t Used)Eligible first-timers can request Accelerated Rehabilitation (AR). If the court grants AR and you complete the terms, the matter is discharged and removed from public records. We pair any AR request with a short, written plan that reduces future in-person overlap—schedules, neutral locations, and boundaries the court can trust.
FAQs — Stalking in the Third Degree What Counts as a “Course of Conduct”?A series of actions aimed at the same person—repeated showing up, following, or contacting—not a one-off incident.
Do Threats Have to Be Made?No. The State focuses on repetition and impact—fear or serious distress—even without explicit threats.
What if We Share a Child?Keep contact limited to court-approved logistics at neutral sites. We document the purpose and timing to show necessity, not pursuit.
Can Social Media Factor Into Stalking 3rd?Yes, when online activity leads to in-person appearances (e.g., showing up after a location tag). Repetition ties it together.
Will I Automatically Get a Protective Order?In DV settings, judges commonly issue temporary stay-away or limited-contact orders at arraignment tailored to the facts.
Is It Stalking if We Happen to Shop at the Same Store?Accidental overlap isn’t enough. Without repetition and an aim at the same person, the statute isn’t met.
What Should I Save for My Lawyer?Neutral proof of where you were and why—receipts, transit/parking/toll data, calendars, and any exchange/schedule documents.
Could This Affect Work or Immigration?Any criminal matter can. Securing a dismissal and record removal through FVEP/AR or a straight dismissal protects background checks and filings.
Should I Talk to the Police to Explain?Not before speaking with counsel. Off-the-cuff explanations about “why you were there” often help the State, not you.
If the Other Person Keeps Messaging Me, Can I Reply?If a protective order is in place, do not respond. Even a single reply can lead to a new arrest. Save it and give it to your lawyer.
Your Game PlanThese cases turn on details—where you were, how often, and why. Bring me the paperwork and data that prove your side of the story, and we’ll build a plan that narrows the allegations, protects your freedom, and keeps your record clean.
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